I, Mistress Troy, will post updates here about My upcoming schedule, newly acquired BDSM equipment, toys & fetish wardrobe, and whatever else strikes My fancy.
To see older "Updates" pages, scroll to the bottom of this page for an "Archived Updates" index.
May 15, 2019
BACK FROM DOMCON LA
Similar to the previous two DomCon's I attended in Los Angeles, this one was full of knowledgeable, supportive and fun women (and males)! Also similar was the whirlwind of non-stop activity throughout the event -- catching up with friends and colleagues, meeting new people, shopping and talking with vendors, big parties and small gatherings, parades, pageants and demonstrations and, for Me, many, many classes. I am often asked why I take so many classes when I have been doing this (professional female-domination BDSM sessions) for so long and the answer is simple: "Knowledge is Power." There is always more to learn and DomCon has never failed Me. The classes also offer a strong feeling of camaraderie among the participants, especially the wonderful women in the industry-only classes.
As much as I would love to go on about all the amazing women I met and saw at DomCon, all the thoughtful and informative teachers and presenters I learned from, and all the new equipment I acquired, My inbox is full and I have sessions to conduct so this is all you get for now. I have been using "the twitter" more during DomCon to show highlights from My time there. Check it out:
Mistress Troy's Twitter: https://twitter.com/MistressTroy
May 6, 2019
HEADED TO DOMCON LA
I will be at DomCon LA though May 13 and I return to a full schedule in New York City. I probably will not start catching up on e-mail until the week of May 20. Immediate scheduling matters, proper session requests, and "Introduction E-mails" will get priority. I may or may not tweet or retweet posts while at DomCon LA.
Mistress Troy's Twitter: https://twitter.com/MistressTroy
May 2, 2019
GIO MEMPHIS FF STOCKINGS
My nylons fetishist recently sent Me a pair of Gio Memphis Full Fashioned Stockings, which I wore during our even more recent session. I generally prefer a simpler design on My hosiery, but these stockings are quite spectacular. From the striking welt with keyhole and shadow welt to the intricate design of the heel, the details of these stockings are sexy, flattering, and mesmerizing! My snapshots do not do them justice.
To learn more about hosiery in general and some of My favorite styles, visit My "Stockings, Pantyhose and Tights" page and, please, send stockings!
May 1, 2019
I went to Florida for a session last week and it was a great time! I met up with My submissive of many, many years. He is also an exhibitionist who is quite agile with large cucumbers (use your imagination). The weather at My secluded casita varied widely during My stay -- warm, chilly, pouring rain, bright and sunny, gusty winds -- but overall it was perfect for adventures outside amongst the palm trees. My submissive absentmindedly asked to use the bathroom in My casita at one point and was promptly slapped across the face. I did allow him to use a cup to collect his pee on My patio so he could enjoy a swig later in the day . . .
I would share more, but I am busy in New York City doing sessions, catching up on administrative work, and preparing for My trip to DomCon LA next week.
April 23, 2019
NEW WEBPAGE ADDED
I have added a new page to My website, "Extended and Overnight Sessions." I hope genuine submissives, slaves, masochists, and fetishists find the information on this page to be a helpful step in delving deeper into your desires, needs, and servitude, along with realizing your fantasies.
March 29, 2019
I can never get enough of Varda's boots and I just received two new pairs (now I need a bigger apartment in Manhattan to store all My boots!). One of My fellow boot fetishists and boot slave of 20 years and I shared a serendipitous boot moment the other day. The universe presented us with a spur-of-the-moment opportunity to go boot shopping at Varda (on Spring Street in Soho, NYC) and we both did whatever we had to do to make it happen. It was quite the feat, possibly even a miracle(!!), but we squeezed a boot shopping trip into our busy schedules and then rehashed the wonderful excursion over a quick but delicious bite to eat. I got a stunning pair of black leather boots with a breathtaking silhouette. They have a low platform and are so comfortable I wore them out of the store. I also got a very practical and classic pair of dark brown boots that will be perfect for walking all over the city all day long. Because I did have to get back to the dungeon in a hurry, I told My boot slave that I wanted to jump on the subway. This clearly destroyed his image of Me using only private drivers and luxury automobiles for transportation, but I exaggerate not when I wrote "I am a highly practical Dominatrix" on My "Gift List" page and I also write on My "Session Details" page that the "NYC subway system is often easier and quicker to use than hailing a cab or using an alternative car service."
March 20, 2019
HOSIERY & WELTS
After a frustrating morning yesterday of dealing with e-mails from people who either had not read My website or could not follow instructions, the day took a turn for the better! I received two new pairs of hosiery (seamed stockings and pantyhose) from one of My most enthusiastic nylons fetishist, I used My David Morgan snake whip to administer 100 lashes to My whipping boy of 20 years, and I smacked another one of My boy's panty-covered balls several times with a wooden slapper. By late last night I was aglow thinking what a perfect day it had been.
March 14, 2019
LEATHER SHOPPING, LUNCH & MIDORI'S BOOK
I am very happy to report that one of My most intense leather fetishists introduced Me to a leather clothing craftsman in Manhattan today. We ordered a few custom pieces and I left the shop with a beautiful tan suede skirt. Over the past two decades it has become increasingly difficult to find talented local designers who specialize in leather clothing and accessories so I am very excited to see the finished items! Post-leather clothing shopping, My leather fetishist and I enjoyed a delightfully peaceful lunch in Manhattan, where he read a few meaningful passages to Me from Midori's book, "Wild Side Sex: The Book Of Kink."
March 7, 2019
SKIING & E-MAIL
I enjoyed a few days of snow skiing during My recent travels and they were excellent! I was at Sun Peaks, a ski resort in the "middle of nowhere" in Canada. The conditions were superb (sun and fresh powder) and there were no crowds or lines; in fact, it often felt like there were no humans at all on the stunning slopes of this Canadian gem. The people were really nice and the food was surprisingly decent. If you are all about the skiing (as opposed to abundant nightlife and shopping) as I am, I highly recommend this resort. On the topic of My love of skiing, I am in need of an exceptional ski boy. If you are up to the task, you may submit your resume.
I am getting back into the swing of things at My dungeon in New York City. I am working My way through My inbox and I will respond to all worthy e-mails as soon as possible. I have been receiving a higher volume than usual of e-mails from people who did not pay attention to the information provided on My website. If you desire a response from Me, all you have to do is follow My instructions. It's that simple!
February 21, 2019
I am traveling and I will be unavailable through March 6, 2019. Until then I will try to check e-mail once a day and I will only be responding to proper "Introduction E-mails" (see "Our First Session" page) and proper session requests (see "Booking Procedures" page). I may also tweet or retweet posts if I find a few spare moments.
Mistress Troy's Twitter: https://twitter.com/MistressTroy
January 22, 2019
I have made some modifications to the "Sessions" section of My website. The biggest change being that I deleted one page and split the content into two new pages:
A few new pictures are sprinkled about too.
January 10, 2019
BUSY IN NYC & ATLANTA RECAP
I am in New York City catching up on e-mail and doing sessions. I have also been working on some website changes that should make it slightly easier to navigate My massive website, especially on devices with smaller screens. I have added a few new pictures to My "Photos" section too.
While I was in Atlanta in December, I spanked one of My favorite naughty boys; his bottom is shown above. I was surprised to see that barely a blush was visible after the walloping he received. I suppose the panties he wore for some of the strokes provided more protection than I anticipated. I will correct next time.
In Atlanta, I was also very happy to be able to spend time with the delightful and devious (in session) Mistress Ayn. We conducted a thorough full-body examination of a subject in the medical room at Atlanta Dungeon. He mistakenly thought he had booked a cleaning with a dentist so we included a deep, probing inspection of his mouth, among other orifices.
I spent more quality time with Mistress Ayn as she gave Me a tour of FemDom Mansion. The FemDom Mansion is a wonderful place and opportunity for only the most exceptional submissives, of course. I will write a little more about FemDom Mansion soon.
January 1, 2019
Happy New Year!
December 11, 2018
THE HOLIDAY SEASON
I wish everyone a happy and healthy holiday season!
As you can see on My Calendar, I am fully booked through the end of the year and I will therefore be slower than usual with e-email replies. I do not know when I will be posting My next "update," but I have sprinkled a few new pictures throughout My website and I will continue to do so as I have time. I am also reorganizing the "Sessions" section of My website so you will see small changes happening there over the coming weeks.
November 21, 2018
BOOKS, SHOES, STOCKINGS & GLOVES
Some of the gifts I have been enjoying lately include three pairs of Italian leather gloves (red, brown, and camel color) and two pairs of sandals from Varda (red and black). I wore the sandals during My recent trip to and session in Las Vegas. The stunning red sandals matched a bathroom stall at the Wynn Hotel. I also finished reading Mistress Ellen's memoirs, "Places You've Never Been" during My travels, a fun and touching read! I received My first pair of 100% silk stockings for My birthday and I am very excited to wear them when the out-of-state fetishist who sent them has the opportunity to visit Me. As soon I have time, probably on My next flight, I look forward to reading Mistress Darcy's book, "The FemDom Diaries," and Jo Weldon's book about the history of leopard print, "Fierce."
Reminder: I will be available for sessions in Atlanta, Georgia December 18-20, 2018. See My Atlanta Sessions page to book a session.
November 20, 2018
I had a photo shoot in My dungeon today and I will be posting new pictures as I have time during the holidays. I posted two teasers here. One picture shows a cool reflection of My face on My hairbrush that neither I nor My photographer, Aldo, noticed at the time of shooting. It was a happy accident that turned out perfectly. The other picture is a "behind the scenes" image Aldo snapped that shows some of the items used -- canes, handcuffs, taws, leather gloves, and more!
November 9, 2018
BACK FROM LAS VEGAS
I have returned from Las Vegas and it was a fantastic trip. My submissive and I took full advantage of a luxurious hotel setting, where he displayed a deeper level of submission than I have ever witnessed in his 22 years of service to Me. While the main purpose of My trip was the session, it also included a day excursion to the Grand Canyon in Arizona, a truly magnificent sight and experience. I was happy to finally be able to wear a fabulous red leather jacket a different slave of Mine got for Me in Florence after our stay at Villa Domme in Italy this past summer.
I am now catching up on e-mail as I prepare for a week full of sessions in New York City. I have been replying to messages that concern immediate scheduling matters first, but I may have missed something. If so, do send a short reminder.
November 1, 2018
HEADED TO LAS VEGAS
So many "updates," so little time to sit and post them on My website. I am headed to Las Vegas to administer a well-deserved spanking, among other things. I will be bringing a beautiful pair of camel color leather gloves, a gift from a delightful glove fetishist. They should work out quite nicely for the anticipated cool desert evenings.
While away, I will not be checking e-mail on a regular basis. I will start replying to e-mails again on November 8, 2018, and I may or may not tweet and/or retweet posts on Twitter.
Mistress Troy's Twitter: https://twitter.com/MistressTroy
October 31, 2018
October 30, 2018
ATLANTA SESSIONS IN DECEMBER
I will be available for sessions in Atlanta, Georgia December 18-20, 2018. See My Atlanta Sessions page to book a session.
October 11, 2018
I have received many wonderful birthday wishes and gifts from special submissives, clients, and Dommes. I will respond to all messages and acknowledge all gifts as soon as I can, but please be patient as the celebratory events are not done yet!
Update regarding the problem with the delivery of My mail that I wrote about below in My October 6, 2018 "Update": Thankfully everything I was expecting arrived except for an article someone mailed. The sender was able to hand-deliver another copy of the article so all is good in the end. But, do not forget to inform Me when sending anything through the mail.
October 6, 2018
MAIL & MY BIRTHDAY
I have been receiving tributes and gifts through the mail since 1995 with only one incident of missing cash -- until this year. Around May 2018 two pieces of mail sent to Me containing cash did not arrive and one envelope I sent containing a money order was stolen. The money order was cashed. During a few conversations with My post office's employees I was told there is nothing they could do about the missing cash because there were no tracking numbers. Over the course of the summer a few submissives risked sending Me cash and it all arrived as expected. For the past week, however, I have received no mail and I am expecting three specific items, including cash. Hopefully the items will arrive soon, but I am now concerned that they too have gone missing.
This information is on My Gift List page, but I will repeat it here:
- ALWAYS notify Me when you send Me anything via postal mail and send a tracking number if applicable. If I am not expecting something I will not check the mail on a daily basis.
- I always acknowledge items I receive in the mail. If you did not notify Me as instructed that you sent Me something (or had a gift sent to Me) and you have not heard from Me for a week after you think it arrived, let Me know.
See My "Payment Options" page for alternatives to mailing cash to Me. Once I know the outcome of these currently missing pieces of mail, I will post an update (see October 11, 2018 "Update").
On a happier note, it is My birthday month and the celebrations are happening! I have received some wonderful gifts and others are on the way. I prefer and always privately thank thoughtful and generous gift givers; however, here is a short and heartfelt public "thank you" for all the gifts I have received!
Several well-meaning people have asked, "I know you have a gift Gift List, but what do you really want for your birthday?" I laugh and gently scold because if you take the time to read My Gift List you will find the answer. I spent a great deal of time creating My Gift List and I update it regularly. It is thorough. There are details, links, pictures, and items marked "high-priority." The item currently on the top of My list (with two red exclamation marks ! ! ) is a pair of brown leather chairs for My dungeon. A few submissives asked if they can get Me one just one of the chairs and, yes, that is acceptable and would make Me very happy, but no chairs have arrived. Perhaps they were lost in the mail.
September 28, 2018
DARK GARDEN CORSET FITTINGS
This is very last minute notice, but Autumn from Dark Garden Corsets in San Francisco will be available for corset fittings in My private dungeon this weekend. See My "Dark Garden Corset Fittings" page for details.
September 26, 2018
MY OCTOBER BIRTHDAY
My birthday is on October 10 and I have been updating My Gift List.
September 17, 2018
BOOTS, WHIPPING, FORNIPHILIA
After an intense and exquisitely satisfying whipping of My boy's back, I reclined on My sofa and propped My booted feet upon his fresh welts. Human furniture, specifically in this case foot rests, can be bothersome with their inevitable movement; however, this whipping boy remained dead still as the weighted leather of My thigh-high boots pressed into his sensitive flesh.
September 13, 2018
VILLA DOMME RETURNS
As I wrote in My July 4, 2018 "update," Villa Domme in Tuscany with Anne O Nomis was an extraordinary experience for Me and I believe for all who attended. It was so special that Anne O Nomis has planned and announced Villa Domme 2019, and many spots have already been booked, including Mine.
Several people (Dommes and submissives) have asked Me about attending Villa Domme and a few submissives have expressed an interest in serving Me there. If you wish to discuss Villa Domme and the possibility of going in June 2019, I will happily answer your questions during a phone session, but you had best schedule your call soon as there may not be much time left before Villa Domme 2019 is fully booked.
September 12, 2018
A NEW TAWSE FOR ME
I am doubly ecstatic! The submissive I wrote about below in My September 7, 2018 "update" has surprised Me with a genuine Lochgelly 2-tail tawse from the early 1960's! He wisely took it upon himself to research online tawse auctions. Much to his surprise -- and to My delight and benefit -- he ended up winning an auctioned off tawse and he presented his highly coveted prize to Me. My new school tawse is tan leather, 21 inches long, stamped ”JOHN.J.DICK, MAKER, LOCHGELLY" with an "M" (medium weight), and it is in fine and quite usable condition. While the intended purpose of tawse and school straps is corporal punishment, I plan to use Mine as a reward for this special submissive (then, of course, in corporal punishment sessions). If all males were as thoughtful, capable, and useful as the one of which I now write, women worldwide would be substantially happier!
September 7, 2018
GUIDE TO THE SCHOOL STRAP
I am ecstatic! One of My favorite submissives surprised Me with a copy of the book/catalog "The Collector's Guide to the School Strap: Second Edition" by Harold A. Hoff. As I write on My Gift List page, it is risky to surprise Me with gifts not on My list; however, this particular submissive knows Me well and knew that I was in the market for an authentic tawse and other school straps. He presented this book to Me and I am very eager to peruse it and use it as I search for pieces to add to My collection.
August 9, 2018
IN NYC FOR A WHILE
As of this writing, My plans are to stay in New York City for the most part through the end of the year, although I will announce a trip to Atlanta in the coming weeks. Check My Atlanta Sessions page for updates and to book a session there.
My most recent travels included time in France with friends, family, and one of My well-organized submissive clients who was able to secure time with Me near the beautiful medieval hilltop town of Sancerre. As usual, I was the quintessential tourist as I donned sun protection gear (to cover My flawless porcelain white skin), grabbed My paper maps, and hit a few prime -- and packed -- touristy locations in France. A digressive thought: My paper maps often out perform nearby GPS's. I don't know why people have become so dependent on those little machines. Plus, My maps don't need constant charging.
Like the heatwave I left (and returned to) in New York City, most of Europe has been suffering with extreme heat this summer too -- and with fewer air-conditioning units. So I took to the Catacombs of Paris for some relief. Versailles was not as pleasant, but there was a nice breeze on the coasts of France and the evenings away from Paris were more comfortable. During My visit to the Musée Picasso Paris, I was happily surprised to see a randomly placed sketch of pony play!
As I settle back in New York City I am pleased that so many submissives and fetishists are booking phone sessions with Me. These calls are a wonderful way to maintain a connection when in-person sessions are not feasible and they are also a great way to stay in touch during hot summer temperatures that are not ideal for many BDSM scenes, wearing leather, or even taking the subway for that matter.
July 14, 2018
I have another lengthy trip approaching, after which I will be available for sessions in New York City with almost no interruption through the end of the year. I will not be checking e-mail regularly through August 6, 2018. Until that date, session requests that follow the guidelines on My Booking Procedures page will get priority. This means that some August 2018 dates will likely be changed to "yellow dates" on My Calendar while I am away. Other legitimate e-mails will get My attention after August 6, 2018.
While away, I may or may not tweet and/or retweet posts on Twitter.
Mistress Troy's Twitter: https://twitter.com/MistressTroy
I have included a few pictures here that I planned to use in "Updates" and have not had time to post yet. They show an extremely appreciative slut of Mine on whom I left physical and mental marks, an intimate lunch session in Manhattan where I was the first to arrive, decorative shoes in an Italian blacksmith's amazing wrought iron workshop I visited, an evening in New York City with Mistress Simone Justice, a pair of faux leather shoes I got at the OWK (Other World Kingdom) gift shop in 2001 (which disintegrated soon after the photo shoot), and a few new exciting items a slave got Me from Purple Passion during our recent afternoon together.
July 4, 2018
VILLA DOMME 2018
Villa Domme is still fresh in My thoughts even after two weeks back in New York City. Anne O Nomis is a brilliant and empathetic teacher. After reading her book, "The History & Arts of the Dominatrix," I was eager and fascinated to meet Anne O Nomis. I signed up for her Mysteries of Female Dominance Realm Arts™ course in Italy primarily for the academic teachings and the one-on-one conversations I might have with her in person, which alone turned out to be worth the journey overseas for Me. However, Villa Domme was so much more. It turned out to be a truly special and unique event.
My attending slave and I connected in Florence, Italy, where in due course we converged on a Florentine restaurant with Anne O Nomis and other Villa Domme participants from around the globe. Next it was off to the beautiful and slightly chilly mountains of Tuscany for a week of wonderment and celebration of Goddesses and female power. In My opinion, Anne O Nomis managed expectations well and for an inaugural venture -- especially BDSM related -- everything went swimmingly. This is not to say there were no issues with hot water or finding an open restaurant with enough seats during siesta hours, but certain situations are commonly expected in a remote Italian village. Fortunately Anne O Nomis' helper, dear tom, "an American-Italian and now Australian resident" who has extensive experience with "production logistics" was available to help with almost everything in and around the Villa.
The intimate group of fourteen attendees arrived at Villa Domme from around the world with wide-ranging and quite diverse levels of experience, education, background, and interests both within the realm of BDSM and in general. Anne O Nomis was well aware of the variance among course applicants as she prepared for her classes at Villa Domme and she did an exemplary job of ensuring everyone felt welcome and got what they wanted from the experience. Within the Villa, the assemblage consisted of dominant women and male subjects (submissives, slaves, servants, devotees, masochists, fetishists, et al.) who were all open, accepting (in several ways), intelligent, and curious. There was a splendid harmony at Villa Domme throughout the week, so much so that I believe a reunion for our group is being planned.
As I mentioned, My primary interest in the Mysteries of Female Dominance Realm Arts™ course was academic and I was not disappointed. Anne O Nomis is a wealth of information and she is more than happy to share her knowledge and research data with her students. I also learned a few new techniques in the "how to" classes. As imagined, Villa Domme was a delightful opportunity to "live the lifestyle" openly, among like-minded people, in the great and magnificent outdoors fulltime for just over a week. One of the most precious parts of the trip for Me (besides touring museums with a cool archaeologist who specializes in Dominatrixes!) was the relaxed, far-reaching, ongoing conversations I had with Anne O Nomis and everyone else at Villa Domme.
Other Villa Domme 2018 highlights for Me include visiting a suspension footbridge surrounded by scenic forest, being able to use My 6-foot bullwhip outside, the masquerade dinner, discussions of protocol with My slave and Anne O Nomis, and enjoying the thoughtful, practical, and high-quality gifts Anne O Nomis and dear tom presented to all the Ladies and males. Of course, spending time in Florence with My slave offered the ideal circumstances for Me to explain and share the joys of Italian leather shopping with him.
Anne O Nomis has announced that Villa Domme will return in 2019. If you wish to learn more from Me and/or discuss attending Villa Domme, I invite you to book a Phone Session with Me. See My "Phone Sessions" page for details.
June 21, 2018
BACK FROM VILLA DOMME, ITALY
I have returned to New York City from Villa Domme in Italy. It was a fantastic experience and Anne O Nomis is a remarkable teacher. I will be in sessions most of this weekend and then I will start catching up on e-mails on Monday. I will post more about Villa Domme next week.
June 4, 2018
OFF TO VILLA DOMME, ITALY
In My January 22, 2014 "Update" titled COLD & BUSY I wrote: "...This...servant also gifted Me with a limited first edition copy of 'The History & Arts of the Dominatrix' by Anne O Nomis -- a book about which I have been quite curious." I read the tome soon thereafter and I was delighted to find it was unlike any other "Dominatrix" book I had come across. I have read many BDSM-related memoirs, fantasy novels, and "how to" books (mostly in paperback), but Anne O Nomis is an archaeologist and historian among other things and "The History & Arts of the Dominatrix" contains a rare or more accurately non-existent academic look at the history of the Dominatrix, plus some. I wanted more. When I learned several months back that Anne O Nomis was teaching her course called "Mysteries of Dominance - Realm Arts™" in Italy -- a more convenient location for Me to visit for a week than her home country of Australia -- My slave and I immediately signed up. The fact that the precise address in Italy is a Villa in Tuscany only added to the allure. And now the time has arrived. I depart for Villa Domme in Italy this week. Although we are trying to manage our expectations, My slave and I are bursting with excitement about our rapidly approaching adventure. I cannot wait to meet and learn from Anne O Nomis in person, while living in a private Tuscan Villa full of dominant women and submissive males.
As usual when I travel, I will not be checking e-mail often while I am away at Villa Domme. I will start replying to e-mail again after June 20, 2018, unless you send a proper request for a session in which case I will get back to you as soon as possible (but it could still take a few days).
May 24, 2018
DOMCON LA 2018 RECAP
As I have mentioned, I had an excellent time at DomCon LA this year. Writing up a full summary would take many hours and pages so following is a relatively brief recap.
My trusted slave and I arrived in Los Angeles for the five-day extravaganza with detailed schedule and a list of recommended restaurants (thanks to one of My LA based submissives) in hand. After a relaxing dinner in Beverly Hills on our first evening, I saw the light of day only a few times though My hotel window over the next five days (DomCon takes place in the basement of the hotel, where a dungeon belongs I suppose).
I attended approximately 22 classes and workshops that included presentations from attorneys and representatives of the Free Speech Coalition (FSC) focusing on SESTA/FOSTA legislation. Three of the most notable classes on My agenda based on a combination of exceptional presenter and material covered were Mistress Tissa's Security Considerations, Mistress Simone Justice's Verbal Skills, and Miss Grey's Classic Domestic Discipline.
One of the brightest highlights of DomCon LA is the Legends Panel produced by Mistress Tara Indiana. It is an hour-long panel discussion moderated by Tara Indiana -- herself a ProDomme legend -- featuring six Dominatrixces ranging in age 20's-70's. I think everyone agreed that the Legends panel discussion length should be increased to three hours or longer!
Because I enjoy the "continuing education" part of DomCon so much and ended up rotating between the four classrooms for days on end, I unfortunately missed many other significant events and performances. I did, however, partake in these social gatherings: The Opening Ceremony at Sanctuary Studios LAX, the Mistress Dinner, the Mistress Tea, a birthday party for Goddess Phoenix, The Whiplr Lounge hosted by filmmaker Max Candy, Goddess Cleo, Miss Penelope Dreadful and Lady Karma and, in a completely FemDom blissed-out condition that we did not want to dissipate, My slave and I found our way to the After Show Party on Sunday evening.
While I have not offered sessions during DomCon because there simply is not enough time, one deserving slave of Mine was granted an evening session for a single-tail whipping which, needless to say, was exquisitely delightful. The next day My slave met Me at the Vendor's Hall and gifted Me -- too late for our session sadly -- with a Roger Patterson black leather single-tail whip and, from Happy Tails Floggers and Whips, a "Hog Slapper" and a custom ordered pair of matching floggers.
And speaking of the Vendor's Hall, same as last year, I could not find enough time to visit all the booths. I really enjoy strolling through the aisles and chatting with the business owners and artisans, learning about their products and practices. However, with only a handful of 5-30 minute shopping breaks in My schedule during the three days that the vendor's hall was open, I could do little more than fly-by pronouncements of "I'll be back!" Amongst all the flurry, My DomCon attendant slave gifted Me with a second, magnificent, one-of-a-kind, Roger Patterson single-tail whip and a Rago girdle from GirdleBound (sans the stockings, which will be procured soon).
When I started offering professional BDSM sessions in 1995 there were two established and highly-regarded Dominatrixes who I admired and hoped to meet in person one day: Mistress Stephanie Locke and Mistress Porsche Lynn. I was thrilled to have the opportunity to finally meet both of these groundbreaking and legendary women in person; who both, incidentally, sat on the DomCon Legends Panel hosted by Mistress Tara Indiana.
I plan to add a list of other Dommes I met and visited with at DomCon LA this year, but time has run short and you will have to check back here later for more.
May 17, 2018
BACK IN NYC
I have returned to New York City from a fantastic time at DomCon LA 2018. My immediate schedule is full with sessions so it will be next week before I can post more here and work on e-mail.
May 14, 2018
DOMCON LA 2018
I just had a whirlwind of fun at DomCon in Los Angeles, California. It was five very full days of classes, equipment exploration and shopping in the vendor’s hall, and meeting and socializing with many amazing women. My slave and I will be winding down today and packing for our journey back to the east coast. I will post more here with a few pictures after I get settled back in New York City. I am also retweeting a few DomCon related tweets on Twitter (see the little white bird in the footer of My website for the link).
May 7, 2018
SCHEDULE / WEBSITE TWEAKS / PADDLE
I will be unavailable for sessions through May 16, 2018 and I will not be checking e-mail often through that date. I will be at DomCon LA some of the time but, again, I will not be available for sessions. During this time you can check out some of the recent additions and tweaks to My website on these pages:
- F.A.Q. (Frequently Asked Questions)
- Photos of Dungeon and Equipment
- Photos of Mistress Troy
- Session Rules
- Specific Fetishes and Interests
The paddle I am holding in the picture above was handmade for Me by a talented submissive several years ago. It is made from beautiful Tiger Maple Wood and it is one of My favorite paddles. The wood is brilliant, especially when the light hits it just right, and it feels like an extension of My arm when I use it. It applies a perfectly weighted sting to waiting round bottoms and the sound created is music to My ears.
May 3, 2018
NEW STOCKINGS PAGE
For stockings and pantyhose fetishists, connoisseurs and lovers, and/or those wanting to please and serve Me, I have created a "Stockings, Pantyhose and Tights" Page. I always need "basic black stockings" and this page offers several options for your shopping convenience along with many other suggestions and exciting possibilities. You may learn something new too.
In My March 29, 2017 "Update" I wrote about how My nylon fetishist and I were experimenting with layering hosiery. Our latest look was a pair of black Cervin Paris Capri 7 Stockings worn over black Platino Cleancut 15 denier pantyhose. The look was stunning and admired by My nylon boy from across the room in a painfully helpless position. Unfortunately, nylon boy has since informed Me that he thinks the Platino Cleancut 15 denier pantyhose has been discontinued.
April 22, 2018
CORSET FETISHISTS TAKE NOTE
During My recent stay in San Francisco as is My custom I spent time at Dark Garden Corsetry, which included a fitting with the lovely Proprietrix Autumn. I learned of Dark Garden Corsets in 2000 and Autumn has been making My corsets ever since. Once you experience the quality and supreme fit of a Dark Garden corset (custom and ready-to-wear) there is no going back to off-the-rack brands and styles. Dark Garden truly is a corset lover's and fetishist's dream. If you can imagine it, Autumn and her on-site production team can most likely create it! Having stated that, the majority of My corsets are black leather in a variety of styles. If you have something unique, creative and/or fabulously sexy in mind to get Me, let Me know and we can work on the details. Alternatively, I want the styles of corsets I wear most often in different colors of leather, so consider that when shopping for Me.
Dark Garden Corsetry's Twitter: https://twitter.com/Dark_Garden
Autumn Adamme's Twitter: https://twitter.com/MissDarkGarden
Dark Garden Corsetry's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/darkgardencorsetry
Miss Dark Garden's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/missdarkgarden
In My "Updates":
- September 8, 2014, "Dark Garden Corsets" (click and scroll down to find the date)
- November 6, 2015, "San Francisco: Dark Garden / Vinyl Queen / Mr. S" (click and scroll down to find the date)
- June 20, 2016, "Dark Garden Corsets" (click and scroll down to find the date)
- August 1, 2017, "Dark Garden Corset Fittings in NYC" (click and scroll down to find the date)
April 14, 2018
I have been in New York City this week after returning from a trip to San Francisco and the California wine country north of that city. I accomplished most of what I wanted; however, a return trip will be required and I hope to fit it in soon because San Francisco is one of My favorite cities to visit. It rained almost the entire time I was north of the city, but I managed to get in a few winery visits and the land was beautiful and lush. As usual, there is much more to write about, but I have several dungeon-improvement projects that need My attention along with some website tweaks and additions that need to be completed. Enjoy today's crumbs, then put away your computers and other little technological devices and go experience the great outdoors, a delicious dinner and/or time with another person or cute furry creature in the flesh!
March 30, 2018
SCHEDULE / CYNTHIA STONE / SESTA-FOSTA
I will be unavailable through April 9, 2018. I will not be checking e-mail regularly during this time period and it is unlikely I will respond to any e-mails before April 9; if I do, immediate scheduling matters will get priority.
Double-Domme sessions are available with Me and Mistress Cynthia Stone in New York City on April 17-19, 2018. A deposit will be required to book session time with us.
The current SESTA/FOSTA legislation is confusing and very disturbing for several reasons. I do not understand it enough at this point to post anything intelligent or helpful online and I will not be able to do more research before April 11, 2018. Fortunately for us, Mistress Simone Justice took the time to gather information and summarize it in her current DommeCraft newsletter, which you can find here: Simone Justice's DommeCraft Newsletter. Please read and do your own research. This issue is important! See also: Stop SESTA & FOSTA.
March 28, 2018
In My May 3, 2017 "Update," I mentioned that I had met the FemDom artist Sardax. We enjoyed lunch together in London and he sketched My portrait after. I have recently added a photograph of Sardax's sketch to My Sardax page.
March 18, 2018
I have added "Glove Fetish" to My Specific Fetishes and Interests page.
March 13, 2018
March 8, 2018
Double-Domme sessions available with Me and Mistress Inga Larsson in New York City this March 20-23, 2018. A deposit will be required to book session time with us.
March 1, 2018
February 27, 2018
CANCELLATIONS & BOOKING PROCEDURES
I have updated My "Cancellations" page and added a new "Booking Procedures" page (for returning clients) to My website. Be sure you understand and follow all the information and instructions given to ensure that I remain happy with you.
Much is written online in regard to clients disrespecting ProDommes' time, more specifically: last-minute cancellations, no-shows, wanting/expecting free session time, and generally poor booking habits. The analogies are abundant; for example: You do not call your attorney and expect an hour of his/her time for no charge; you do not book a one-hour massage and expect the massage therapist to throw in an extra hour for free; you would not go to a restaurant and expect a meal "on the house." A cancellation policy is standard for many professionals and businesses, including doctors and hotels. When it comes to sessions with professional Dominatrixes though, many clients feel entitled to last-minute cancellations and no-shows without penalty, free session time, discounted tributes, and/or "social" time without tribute. The reasons for this thoughtless behavior can be complex; however, that is a subject for a different conversation.
I do not write much about time-wasters and other types of nitwits I encounter because I believe "you either get it or you don't" when it comes to respecting people's time and efforts. One of the purposes of My initial screening process is to determine whether someone is going to waste My time or not and it works well for Me. The result is I have an amazing collection of clients and submissives. Unfortunately, though, even with all My rules and policies, I still have to spend too much time dealing with individuals who pull unacceptable stunts and, shockingly, I occasionally have to ask a person one or more times to submit tribute they owe Me. I have had only three official "no-shows" for sessions during the past 23 years, which is not a bad percentage. Last-minute cancellations, on the other hand, number in the hundreds and almost every time I sit down to work on e-mails I have to deal with some kind of asinine scheduling situation.
I am a reasonable and fair Dominatrix and I understand emergencies happen; however, I have never had to cancel a session with less than 24-hours notice. When something is important, you show up or at least you make every effort to inconvenience others as little as possible. A few clients and submissives have told Me over the years they did not think I would enforce My Cancellation Policies so they ignored them. To be clear, I do enforce My Cancellation Policies. There are many submissives, masochists, fetishists, clients -- people in general -- who are worthy of My time and attention. I prefer to spend My time engaging with them as opposed to using it to deal with thoughtless, disrespectful, and annoying people. To this end, I constantly tweak My website to make things clearer and easier for everyone!
February 17, 2018
STORY / PHOTOS / SCHEDULE
AVALON STORY: My slave, Latigo, and I enjoyed our second trip to Residenz Avalon in Berlin last year, and ever since I have been positing on My website that a story will be published soon. Due to busy schedules, Slave Latigo has not submitted his text to Me -- for which he is now being publically prodded, and I have not finished adding the pictures to the webpage that will contain the recap of our time at Residenz Avalon. Progress is slow, but it is happening and I will announce the publication of the story as soon as it is complete. Until then, you may read about our first stay at Residenz Avalon here:
PHOTOS: I had a photography shoot this week and I will be posting new pictures soon.
SCHEDULE: I will be in New York City until the end of March 2018 at which time I will begin a series of long-ish trips. Keep an eye on My Calendar and plan your sessions accordingly.
January 30, 2018
DOMINATRIX IRENE BOSS, THE COMPLEX
I mentioned last May that I got to visit with My friend Domina Irene Boss at DomCon 2017 in Los Angeles. However, I have not had time until now to share that Domina Irene Boss invited Me and My slave to her fabulous location in Orange County, California, The Complex. We meet Ms Boss at The Complex -- her west coast dungeon -- for a small gathering of Dommes and subs, and Ms Boss gave Me a private tour of her "other" dungeon and studio space. Just like The Compound, Irene Boss's world-renowned dungeon in Pittsburg, Pennsylvania, The Complex in Orange County is fully equipped and contains some extraordinary, custom-made pieces of equipment. Big, exciting equipment! BDSM equipment that perfectly complements the skill, experience, and passion of its owner, Dominatrix Irene Boss.
More detail about The Complex in Orange County, CA:
The Complex in OC is a large open plan space of 4 rooms. Two are for hospitality and the playrooms are filled with custom gear specifically built for The Complex, mostly by DownTownWilly. There are also a few pieces of furniture from SteelToyMaker, MetalBound and Master Draevyn. Motorized furniture, a shockspot robot, spanking machine, and many benches, tables, bondage chairs, and horses are stationed inside. There is suspension in each unit, as well as a Tetruss. The garage doors make kidnapping scenes possible.
The Complex in Orange County, California is very different than The Compound in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania because it is in an industrial area and has a warehouse/art gallery feel and vibe. (The Pittsburgh Compound is an Edwardian mansion.) The plentiful parking makes it an ideal studio to rent for private BDSM functions where all persuasions are welcome, FemDom being just one. All scene orientations (besides FemDom) are welcome at The Complex, and it is possible to rent it for special occasions and professional sessions. Where the Pittsburgh Compound is FemDom and by invitation and application only, The Complex is available to all -- as long as the basic rules of no smoking or biohazerdous play are observed. A caretaker oversees operations at The Complex and Ms Irene Boss visits for a week or so every few months.
The Complex is now in its second year and is starting to take off as a formidable studio addition to the BDSM landscape of Southern California. There is truly nothing else like it in that area. Its addition has already influenced many other existing studios and Ms Irene Boss is honored by this. The Complex was created due to the enormous interest people had in the Pittsburgh Compound and the fact that Ms Irene Boss could not accommodate many suggested wishes at that location -- like studio rental and space for functions. Recently the Dragon’s Gate dungeon in Anaheim California closed, and many of the people associated with the groups who visited there are now making their way over to The Complex, also referred to as “The Orange Complex." Ms Irene Boss's DVD production business was moved from Pittsburgh to Orange County a few years ago (from The Compound to The Complex), and The Complex also houses a working photography studio which is also available to rent. The Complex is essentially a “business to business” endeavor.
Dominatrix Irene Boss' Twitter: https://twitter.com/ireneboss
January 17, 2018
I found out this past weekend that one of My slaves/clients, "b," died unexpectedly several months ago and I am stunned, sad, and feeling a profound sense of loss. Slave b and I met in late 1995, soon after I started offering professional BDSM FemDom sessions. He was one of My first and longest-term clients. We enjoyed sessions primarily in My dungeon; however, we also went to OWK together in 2001 and made annual shopping trips to Boston for BDSM equipment and fetish clothing at the New England Leather Alliance (NELA) Fetish Fair Fleamarket (when it took place in Boston). Last July we discussed our plans over phone and e-mail for a trip to Avalon in Berlin and for commissioning our second Sardax portrait together, among other things. We both had a busy Fall season on the horizon so I was not too concerned when My birthday, then the holidays started to pass without communication. With the arrival of the New Year though, worry started creeping in and I sent an e-mail. I received no response. I knew something was amiss. He was a youthful and exuberant 64 years old and extremely active, but I had a feeling and I went directly to an obituary search online. I found his obituary and this is how I discovered he had died completely unexpectedly after an active day with friends . . . and just two days after our last e-mail correspondence. The cause of death was not disclosed. So now I wonder and mourn the loss without the option of connecting with others who knew and will miss this special person too.
This is one of the drawbacks of being a professional Dominatrix. I and many other Dominatrixes care, often deeply, about our submissives, clients, and scene partners (just as they care about us). In professional BDSM situations, real full names are rarely used. Even if they are, family and friends are usually not asked in advance to notify the deceased's Dominatrix in the event of his/her death (this has happened once for Me and the friend forgot to call for several weeks). In fact, family and friend's often have no knowledge of the dearly departed's proclivities, much less the existence of his/her Dominatrix, so Dominatrixes worldwide are left to wonder if a sub's total absence is merely the result of "moving on" for any number of reasons or something more tragic and permanent. Fortunately, I knew My slave's/client's real name and other information that allowed Me to find out why he had disappeared from My life. I am offering no sage advice, words of wisdom, or even suggestions here, just some food for thought. Our BDSM relationships, while professional and/or limited in many aspects, are also intense, deep, complex, intimate, fulfilling, healing, and life-altering -- or perhaps just a fun refuge from the real world. It may be a good and/or appropriate thing to come up with a plan of notification in case your secret partner dies.
January 15, 2018
NEW SPANKING PADDLE
Over the holidays I received a new personalized wooden paddle with which I can cause burning bottoms. My skilled and very talented "naughty school boy" made it for Me himself. He told Me he had perfected the holes for optimal sting, and I happily confirmed that statement without delay.
January 8, 2018
SESSIONS IN NYC
I am in New York City for a while and booking and conducting sessions. I am also catching up on e-mail and website "Updates," of which there are many. I think I am current on immediate scheduling matters; however, My inbox is still very full so if you have not heard back from Me about a time-sensitive matter, send a polite reminder. I will reply to all other legitimate and appropriate e-mails as I have time.
I enjoyed several deeply satisfying sessions over the holidays and posted a picture from one here. This image is of a submissive slut who returned to My feet -- and My hoist -- after an unacceptably long absence during which a chastity device would have been quite advantageous. I plan to put him to good use in 2018.
I have a few big trips booked over the coming months so check My Calendar and plan your sessions accordingly.
January 1, 2018
December 29, 2017
E-MAIL & HAPPY NEW YEAR
My e-mail is fully functional again, but I will not be checking it regularly until January 2, 2018. I will start replying to messages at that time. Until then, you may enjoy this older picture of Me celebrating holidays past. I wish everyone an abundantly happy and healthy New Year!
December 20, 2017
COMPUTER / E-MAIL PROBLEMS
A confluence of annoying events have resulted in Me having unreliable access to My e-mail and no access to My contact list during My current travels. The bottom line is: Do not expect to hear from Me before January 2, 2018.
Additionally, there is a batch of approximately 25 e-mails that arrived sometime during December 18-19, 2017 which I cannot open nor can I see who sent them at this time. As soon as I gain access to these e-mails I will respond; however, if you sent something time-sensitive on one of those dates, you may resend and I should be able to see the new message.
If you have a session scheduled with Me before January 2, 2018 we are confirmed as planned. You should send Me a short e-mail as soon as possible so I have your e-mail address during My travels.
December 1, 2017
CHICAGO & DECEMBER 2017
I took a short trip to Chicago this week for a session. My submissive procured a selection of chocolate delicacies that he knew would please Me and we enjoyed a stroll around downtown Chicago in the unseasonably warm weather. My sub's service was generally outstanding; however, I used this opportunity for fine-tuning his behavior and, needless to say, he got into trouble and was promptly punished with a solid spanking and a sound slap across the face . . .or ten.
I am back in New York City and fully booked with sessions and travel through the end of December. I believe I am current with e-mails and phone messages pertaining to immediate scheduling matters, but My inbox is full and I may have missed something. If you are waiting to hear back on a time-sensitive subject, send a polite reminder. All other e-mails will get My attention as My schedule permits.
November 16, 2017
ROBERT DANTE, BULLWHIP LESSON
Anyone interested in using bullwhips within a BDSM context probably knows of -- or should certainly be aware of -- Robert Dante, a true master of the bullwhip. To start here with a side note, you may be as startled to learn this fact as I was, but not all whip makers and users are BDSM scene-friendly. Some whip makers even claim they will not sell their whips to "those kinds of people." Fortunately times are changing and it is easier to find open-minded (or at least capitalistic) whip makers and sellers from who you can purchase quality whips for use on that special person. Robert Dante is not a whip maker, but he is a (modest) world-renowned whip master who educates people on how to safely use bullwhips within the realm of BDSM. Robert Dante is also a four-time Guinness World record holder and he performs and presents bullwhip programs internationally. He has appeared on numerous TV shows, and he is the author of "Let's Get Cracking, The How-To Book of Bullwhip Skills."
I have wielded single-tail whips on My submissives and masochists for over 20 years and I believe a skill of this nature should be consistently honed. In My ongoing quest to expand My knowledge and experience, I made a few attempts over the years to take a class with Robert Dante, which distressingly never quite hit the target. Earlier this year, I saw Robert Dante's tour schedule in My region of the United States and I was determined to take a class with him. When all was said and done, the best case scenario occurred: I enjoyed a private bullwhipping lesson with Robert Dante.
Between some of My longer trips during this past summer, My whipping boy and I trekked out to a beautifully wooded area of Pennsylvania to meet with Robert Dante. The mutually convenient location was peaceful, private, and offered plenty of indoor and outdoor space, perfect for cracking bullwhips of all lengths. Robert Dante is an exceptional teacher in many ways, not the least of which is exuding a pleasant calmness and gentle patience with his students. Watching him handle a bullwhip is mystical, although "handle" does not seem quite the right word. He allows the whip to maneuver as it was designed to do. The whip comes to life in Robert's hand and dances, often while it appears as if Robert is doing little more than standing and holding the whip. The rolling and waving motions of the whip across the floor and through the air are mesmerizing. I suspect there are very few people capable of displaying this level of finesse with a bullwhip. My whipping boy was given the tremendous treat of being used as Robert's target during My lesson. Besides astounding accuracy, the energy Robert brings to a whipping scene is transportive.
Before our time together was over, Robert gave Me a signed copy of the second edition of his book, "Let's Get Cracking, The How-To Book of Bullwhip Skills" (of course I own and had already read the first edition) and a personalized whip care and maintenance kit. He also spent some time and tender loving care on the whips I brought to show him from My own collection. It was a very special afternoon. You can learn more about Robert Dante, peruse his comprehensive Bullwhip Index of Whip Makers, Performers, and Teacher, subscribe to his newsletter, and visit his Whip Pro shop at the following links:
Robert Dante, Bullwhip Artist (main stream website): bullwhip.net
Robert Dante, Bullwhip Master (BDSM website): bullwhip.xxx
The BDSM Bullwhip Index: bdsm.bullwhip.info
The Bullwhip Index of Whip Makers, Performers, and Teachers (main stream website): bullwhip.info
The Whip Pro Shop: bullwhip.biz
November 2, 2017
MY OWK PAGE
A very small update has been posted on My OWK (The Other World Kingdom) page.
October 31, 2017
Happy Halloween To All!
I just received a gift from My Amazon.com wish list and I do not know who sent it. More often than not nowadays, Amazon.com is not including a note from the giver in gift packages. Please notify Me via e-mail when you send a gift so I can look for it and more importantly so I know who the gift is from.
October 16, 2017
MY BIRTHDAY, PART 2
I have been booked daily with back-to-back sessions since My actual birthday last week and I have barely been getting to My desk to check e-mail. I have not been able to read completely the longer missives, but I think I am staying current on immediate scheduling details. After scheduling-related e-mails, I am slowly sending thank you notes for all the wonderful and thoughtful gifts I have received. If you have not received an acknowledgement for your gift, please do not think I do not appreciate it. I do!
October 2, 2017
MY BIRTHDAY MONTH
My birthday is next week and I have not had much time to spend on My Gift List, although I generally try to keep it up to date. I know some of you have been working away with intense diligence on selecting and procuring gifts for My special day and for this I am deeply appreciative and very excited! While I am thrilled to receive anything from My Gift List, the two biggest items that I am most in need of at this time are the pair of brown (chocolate) leather Allegro Chairs from Design Within Reach (that can also be found on My gift list) and a new laptop computer -- LAPTOP COMPUTER UPDATE: A wonderful new submissive of Mine had a laptop computer in the mail to Me within 24 hours of My posting this "update." If only all submissives and slaves were this helpful and efficient I would have time to post more photos and "updates."
The brown (chocolate) leather chairs will replace a pair of faux leather chairs in My dungeon that I received a few years back and that are now starting to crumble as pleather will inevitably do. As for the laptop, there is not a specific model that I have in mind. I need one with a big screen and that is fast when using the internet. If you know about these things and wish to get Me the biggest and best currently available, please do. If you wish to get Me a laptop PC, but you are not particularly computer savvy, let Me know and I will give you more details.
As always, I have many "updates" and pictures to post, but no spare time to do so. Besides being My birthday month, October is always one of My busiest months for sessions. I have always had to turn down sessions in October because I simply could not fit them into My schedule. Those who really want to see and serve Me plan ahead and most of them have already booked October sessions with Me. This makes Me very happy, and it also means I still will not have much time to tweak My website.
September 26, 2017
My e-mail server was down yesterday, Monday, September 25, 2017. The majority of e-mails I sent and that were sent to Me yesterday have disappeared. While My e-mail service appears to have resumed, I am skeptical that it is operating at 100% yet. I resent most of My e-mails today. If you sent Me an e-mail yesterday or if you have not heard back from Me in regard to an immediate scheduling matter, do re-send your e-mail.
September 25, 2017
8:55 pm EDT: My e-mail problem can be blamed on the server and I currently have no estimated time on when it will be fixed. As soon as My e-mail is working again, I will announce it here and I will resume sending e-mails. For those who are not aware, I am not a big fan of computer and internet technology and especially of the dependence most people have on it these days. This is part of the reason why I do not own a smartphone. My landline is working as expected right now and I am off to find some tin cans and string as a back-up.
7:50 pm EDT: I am definitely not receiving e-mails today, Monday, September 25, 2017. As far as I can tell at this point, e-mails being sent to Me are ending up lost in cyberspace. I also have no idea if the e-mails I sent today reached their intended destination. I will continue to work on this problem tonight. As soon as I have more information, I will post it here. Until I announce that the problem is resolved, please do not send e-mails to Me. If we have a booked session, I will expect your call from the corner as usual. If we have an unconfirmed Phone Interview for tomorrow, it will unfortunately have to be rescheduled after My e-mail is working again.
3:45 pm EDT: I have sent out several scheduling-related e-mails today and I now have reason to believe they are not making it to their destination. I also think I may not be receiving all My e-mails. I am trying to diagnose and remedy the situation. If you received an e-mail from Me today, please confirm that you got it. If you sent Me an e-mail today, please resend. I will post notice here as soon as the situation is corrected.
September 20, 2017
NEW STORY - MISTRESS VENUS
A few years back My friend and fellow NYC Dominatrix Mistress Venus invited Me to participate in the training of her submissive male servant. I eagerly joined Mistress Venus in this endeavor and the results have been thoroughly enjoyable and satisfying. I have been too busy for the past several months to post all the "Updates" I want, so with Mistress Venus' approval, I commanded her useful servant to submit a write-up of our recent extended session together. The "update" evolved into a "story" which can be found in My "Stories" section, titled "It Is All True . . ."
September 15, 2017
LAS VEGAS FUN
I am back in New York City after a trip to Las Vegas for an extended session and some sight-seeing. I visited Las Vegas a few times in the 1990's as I was starting to offer professional BDSM, FemDom sessions. The changes that have occurred in "Sin City" over the past two decades are dramatic; some for the better, others not so much. While Las Vegas has never been a destination on the top of My list, after two relatively recent stays it is starting to grow on Me as a possibility-filled location for FemDom and BDSM sessions. The slave I see there certainly makes the trip an exceptional experience; however, the location is now somewhere to keep in mind for all the hopeful submissives trying to get their act together for an extended adventure with Me.
As always when I travel, I incorporated some popular tourist attractions. This trip included Hoover Dam, Lake Mead, watching Bighorn Sheep in Boulder City, Nevada, The Neon Museum, The Mob Museum, and popping into several chocolate shops and Ethel M's chocolate factory. Those who study My Gift List know that dark chocolate is a favorite treat of Mine.
I will be conducting sessions in My New York City dungeon throughout most of the Fall, and I will soon book a trip to Atlanta for sessions. Over the coming week, I will try to catch up on e-mails and post some "updates."
September 4, 2017
E-MAIL ATTACHMENTS & TRAVELING
Unless I have instructed, commanded, requested, or granted permission for you to send Me e-mail attachments, DO NOT SEND E-MAIL ATTACHMENTS of any kind, including images (imbedded or attached) and "writings" in any format. I do not open attachments from people I do not know and these e-mails will be moved to a "problematic" folder or deleted altogether. (The small-sized attachments I have recently received from My loyal submissives and slaves are acceptable and welcomed.)
To expand, during My recent period of travel I received several e-mails with attached files totaling between 14-17 MB each. As I state often and repeatedly on My website, I do not check e-mail on a regular basis while I travel. This build-up of large files in My inbox caused extremely annoying and time-consuming problems for Me as I tried to check My e-mail. I had to delete several e-mails without fully reading them first. None of the deleted e-mails were from people I know and none were proper "Introduction E-mails" (see "Our First Session" page to learn how to send a proper "Introduction E-mail" for a session). I will start responding to messages worthy of My time and attention this week.
My recent travels included time in southern Italy which was amazing, but also intensely hot and brilliantly sunny. The conditions called for dramatic skin protection strategies as I explored ruins built by slaves in ancient times and utilized the services of current day "slaves" and servants. My travels will continue through September 13, 2017, at which time I will resume a less sporadic e-mail checking schedule and sessions in My New York City dungeon.
August 11, 2017
LATE SUMMER 2017 SCHEDULE
I will be traveling and unavailable in New York City through September 3, 2017. I will not be checking e-mail regularly during this time and I will not be checking phone messages at all. When responding to e-mail, scheduling matters will get priority and the rest will get a reply as I have time. Check My Calendar for more scheduling details.
I may or may not use Twitter to announce and retweet things during this time period: https://twitter.com/MistressTroy
August 1, 2017
DARK GARDEN CORSET FITTINGS IN NYC
Autumn Adamme, the founder and proprietress of Dark Garden Corsets in San Francisco, will be available for consultations and/or fittings at My space in New York City this weekend. For lovers of corsets and corset fetishists in New York City and the surrounding region, this is a rare and special opportunity to work with Autumn -- also known as “Miss Dark Garden” -- in person without having to make the trip to her San Francisco boutique.
All Dark Garden corsets are expertly made by hand in the store’s on-site workshop and are of the highest quality. My personal corset collection contains approximately fourteen Dark Garden corsets. Some of these corsets are over fifteen years old and look and wear like new (of course I do take meticulous care of these treasured garments).
Dark Garden Corsetry's Twitter: https://twitter.com/Dark_Garden
Autumn Adamme's Twitter: https://twitter.com/MissDarkGarden
Dark Garden Corsetry's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/darkgardencorsetry
Miss Dark Garden's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/missdarkgarden
In My "Updates":
- September 8, 2014, "Dark Garden Corsets" (click and scroll down to find the date)
- November 6, 2015, "San Francisco: Dark Garden / Vinyl Queen / Mr. S" (click and scroll down to find the date)
- June 20, 2016, "Dark Garden Corsets" (click and scroll down to find the date)
DETAILS FOR CONSULTATION / FITTING WITH AUTUMN
This opportunity is open to any gender.
45-minute consultation/fitting, $200
- The fee is for a private consultation/fitting with Autumn in My private dungeon in Manhattan, New York City.
- The fee must be paid in full to book an appointment and is non-refundable. See My "Payment Options" page for information on submitting the fee. Once your fee has been received, I will contact you to book an appointment.
A non-refundable deposit will be required for each corset ordered. Details will be confirmed with Autumn at the time of the fitting. See this page for more information: Bespoke Corset Deposit
Dates / Times
Sunday, August 6, 11 am-6 pm
Tuesday, August 8, 10 am-5 pm
At My dungeon on the Upper East Side of Manhattan. You will be given the address after your $200 fee has been received.
What to Wear / Bring
Appropriate undergarments to be measured in, i.e. anything you will be wearing with your finished corset.
This would be a perfect time to order your special Mistress a special corset!
July 31, 2017
GODDESS PHOENIX AT DOMCON LA
Another highlight of My time at DomCon LA this past May was meeting Goddess Phoenix. She is a stunning woman who I have admired for years and I was thrilled to get the opportunity to meet her in Los Angeles. Goddess Phoenix is a world renowned Dominatrix, kinky life coach and educator, and she sits on the DomCon Advisory Board. I was introduced to her while taking her classes, “The Traveling Domme - Have Whip Will Travel” and "Intense Kidnapping and Interrogation," and I enjoyed several quick chats with her throughout the 5-day DomCon LA event. Goddess Phoenix is larger than life and equally as gracious. On the evening of the DomCon LA opening ceremonies at Sanctuary Studios LAX, she offered to demonstrate her colorful LED whips for Me after hearing I had never seen such implements. It was a spectacular show by a true Goddess.
July 28, 2017
MORE BARONESS ESSEX
I have posted another picture here and in My Photos section of My fantastic visit with The Baroness Essex several weeks ago near London. You can read a little more about this visit below in My "Update" dated June 27, 2017.
July 24, 2017
MISTRESS TEA, DOMCON
The Mistress Tea at DomCon is a popular event and I attended this past May during DomCon LA 2017. The Mistress Tea is only an hour in duration, which is nowhere near enough time to meet and chat with all the lovely ladies in attendance. I did not even get a chance to talk with all of the women sitting at My table. Thankfully, Goddess Cleo from London took pictures, collected names, and posted it all on Twitter, a very nice reminder of the afternoon (apparently there is a useful reason for "the twitter" to exist).
The Mistress Tea flew by. The conversations in which I engaged were quite enjoyable and informative. The service was excellent. The selection of teas was exactly what I prefer and there were a few delicious refreshments offered. The featured treat was a cock cookie. I kept so busy socializing that I still had My little edible penis in hand as all the ladies made their way to the exit at the conclusion of tea time. Neither I nor My slave naturally entertain the thought of a cock in our mouths so, predictably, I commanded My slave to take the penis cookie into his mouth. He devoured it without hesitation and told Me how tasty it was. Interesting . . . but I had to rush to the next event. I later found out that the cock cookies were generously handmade for the Mistress Tea by Jewell Marceau and that they were indeed delicious. I look forward to meeting Jewell Marceau and tasting her cookies one day.
July 10, 2017
FOR FOOT FETISHISTS
I am back in New York City after a brief trip for some family events. The weather was balmy and perfect for wearing sandals and flip-flops, which exposed My lovely, pedicured feet. I will be unavailable from August 11-September 3, 2017 so if you have hopes of seeing My bare feet in person this summer, book time with Me as soon as possible.
July 4, 2017
NEW BOOTS AND MUZZLE
Happy Independence Day United States!
June 27, 2017
THE BARONESS ESSEX
During My recent stay in London, I had the opportunity to meet and conduct femdom BDSM sessions with the magnificent Baroness Essex. She is all I had imagined and expected and more. Her lush estate is a 35-minute train ride from Central London. I arrived at the secluded, ample property and The Baroness Essex and I enjoyed a lovely lunch and afternoon tea served by one of her exceptional servants. We toured the expansive yet intimate-feeling array of session rooms (including a world class medical clinic, crossdressing chambers, and well-appointed dungeon), trained and tortured some slaves and had a few photos taken. I hope to return to England soon to visit with The Baroness Essex and engage in more double-Domme sessions, and as soon as The Baroness Essex plans a trip to New York City I will announce it here. In the meantime, I highly recommend that any submissive living in or visiting London and its environs follow her protocol and book a session with The Baroness Essex.
June 25, 2017
The Gay Pride March is happening in New York City today. I hope for the day when all humans are treated and protected equally under the law. Happy Pride!
June 21, 2017
AVALON STORY COMPLETED
June 10, 2017
PURPLE PASSION NYC
My slave and I took advantage of the beautiful weather in New York City yesterday for a trek to Purple Passion (NYC’s premier BDSM, fetish clothing, and adult toy store since 1992). I ended up with these dungeon necessities: a hand-molded black leather cat-eye masquerade mask by Le Cordonnier, a 3-foot 12-plait nylon snake whip, a black suede flogger with braided strands, a silicone rubber flogger-style implement that creates an intense sensation, nipple clamps, a low-burning temperature candle, nylon rope, two spandex hoods, and Vivishine Latex Polish.
Lolita Wolf, someone I feel like I have known for years from the BDSM scene, was in the shop and we officially met for the first time. She was especially helpful and informative when telling Me about Vivishine Latex Polish. I have used Perv-o-shine for polishing and maintaining My latex for years; however, ever since Demask closed it's shop in New York City, the only way of which I know to procure this item is to order it from Germany. I have been told by two submissives that the shipping costs to the United States is approximately five times as much as the bottle of Perv-o-shine and that the liquid product often gets held up in customs. After talking with Lolita, I am hopeful that Vivishine will be a suitable -- and much easier to obtain -- alternative to Perv-o-shine.
June 7, 2017
IN NYC FOR A WHILE
I have just returned to New York City again after a short trip for a private lesson with bullwhip master Robert Dante. I am slowly catching up on e-mail and upcoming "updates" will include more about My bullwhip lesson with Robert Dante, My recent time at Avalon in Berlin, My lunch with femdom artist Sardax, My day with The Baroness Essex in England, My first time at DomCon LA, and visiting Domina Irene Boss' Complex in Orange County, California.
May 26, 2017
DOMCON LA 2017
As I state in a few places throughout My website, I am a very private and discreet Dominatrix, and I rarely leave My New York City dungeon. I do, of course, very much enjoy meeting and socializing with other Professional Dominatrixes, but that can be a challenge when trying to navigate busy session schedules and often long distances. Circumstances of this nature were a factor in the creation of DomCon by Mistress Cyan back in 2004. Among other goals and purposes, Mistress Cyan wanted to provide an opportunity for dominant women to meet, socialize, and learn from each other. While I was quite aware of DomCon from the beginning, I always had sessions booked on the dates of the annual event and, being a private person, I hesitated when it came to making plans for attending such a large conference. But inevitably, every year after this major ProDomme networking event, I would hear and read about what a positive experience it had been for all involved.
So this year, amidst several other trips on My itinerary, I commanded one of My trusted slaves to book our tickets for DomCon LA 2017. After a short stop back home in New York City between trips, My loyal slave and I met in Los Angeles and the 5-day whirlwind began. Along with meeting amazing women, My other main goal at DomCon was to attend as many classes and workshops as possible. After 22 years of executing professional BDSM FemDom sessions, I have heard, seen and "done it all" -- but, really, there is always something more to learn and experience! We are all set in our ways to some extent and I keep fairly isolated, thus I am eager to get fresh perspectives on topics I know well and explore more on subjects of which I am not so familiar. In a continuing education frenzy, I took 14 classes at DomCon and I am still digesting all the information presented and organizing My notes.
There were several ladies I was looking forward to meeting in person for the first time at DomCon. However, due to the large number of attendees and the extensive schedule of classes and events, I think I met only a third of those women, if that. I did though see lots of Dommes from "across the room" at the various array of venues. Following is a summary of the ladies with whom I spent at least a few minutes chatting.
There are ProDommes who may be more widely known than Myself, but there are few Dominatrixes around today who have been offering professional sessions for as long -- or longer -- than I have been. I was very happy to reunite with a few of these notable women in person after many, many years. I reminisced with Domina Irene Boss, Mistress Ariana Chevalier, and Isabella Sinclaire. I also caught up with Mistress Simone Justice who was busy hosting the Whiplr Elite Lounge throughout the convention. The Baroness is another scene icon who I have not seen in ages even though her latex boutique is less than five miles away from My Manhattan dungeon in New York City. Some other friends and colleagues I enjoyed face-to-face time with were Inga Larsson, Lady Victoria, Mistress Nicolette, SubMissAnn, and Mistress Ultra Violet who was a DomCon Guest of Honor.
I did not get a chance to meet all of the members of the DomCon Advisory Board, but I did have the pleasure of meeting these exceptional ladies in person for the first time: Mistress Cyan, Mistress Ellen, Mistress Precious, Goddess Phoenix, and Mistress Porcelain Midnight.
Over the course of the 5-day event, I also met these remarkable women for the first time: Stella Liberty, Mistress Dieve, Julie Spanks, Mistress Gabrielle, Madame Margherite, Mistress Tissa, Goddess Cleo, Miss Penelope Dreadful, Mistress An Li, Mistress Eden, Lady January Frost, Lady Desiree, and Domina Helena.
Tara Indiana is a legendary Dominatrix who I have wanted to meet for a while now. She has been around longer than I and even though we were both doing femdom sessions in New York City in the mid and late 1990's, our paths have never crossed until now. I showed up to take one of the classes Tara Indiana was presenting on the neurology of the kinky brain. The Baroness was kind enough to introduce Me to Tara Indiana and it was a pleasure to meet her and discover how kind and supportive she is as a person -- at least to other Dominatrixes. There is no doubt she is a supreme ball-buster when appropriate.
I was ecstatic to meet Sheree Rose, a trailblazing and legendary photographer, performance artist, and Dominatrix whose life partner was Bob Flanagan. Two of the earliest additions to My SM library were the DVD "Sick: The Life and Death of Bob Flanagan, Supermasochist," and the book "Bob Flanagan: Supermasochist - Re/Search People Series: Volume One." It was a privilege to talk with Sheree Rose for a few moments and to listen to her speak as part of the Legends panel at DomCon.
Between attending classes, the Mistress Dinner, the Mistress Tea, socializing, and other scheduled events, I ended up with insufficient time for shopping and exploring the vendor's booths at this year's DomCon. My slave did purchase a few items for Me from Leather By Danny, which I will highlight in an upcoming "update," and I will most certainly modify My schedule accordingly at any future DomCon's I attend.
I took very few pictures at DomCon and I will eventually post them on My website. As for "the twitter," the majority of DomCon-related photos I will tweet there were taken in the Whiplr Elite Lounge which was graciously and generously hosted by Mistress Simone Justice and Max Candy. Finally for now, if I forgot to include any ladies I met at DomCon in this "update," My apologies and do let Me know.
May 24, 2017
IN NEW YORK CITY
I am back in New York City having just returned from DomCon LA 2017. I am catching up on e-mail and editing pictures from all My recent travel. If I have not responded to an e-mail about an immediate scheduling matter, do resend as I may not have seen it yet. Check back here because I will add news and updates as My schedule allows.
May 20, 2017
DOMCON LA / DOMINA IRENE BOSS
May 14, 2017
I have not completed the extended period of travel in which I am currently engaged. I am spending time with fantastic FemDommes, meeting interesting people, training slaves in sessions, and acquiring enticing BDSM equipment and fetish attire. Continue to check back here for updates.
May 3, 2017
BERLIN AND LONDON
I have completed another stay at Residenz Avalon and it was quite possibly even more amazing than My first stay last August. I spent extended quality time with the owners of Avalon Lady Mercedes and Lady Marlon and they presided over the second trial of My slave.
I met Fernando of Fernando Berlin (custom made leather boots and gloves). I ended up with two new pairs of leather boots and two new pairs of leather gloves.
I will add more tidbits, pictures, and links here as time permits.
April 24, 2017
Belligerent males must learn their lessons.
April 22, 2017
Happy Earth Day! Do something positive for our planet today.
April 17, 2017
THIS MONTH & NEXT
I am in New York City for a few days between trips. This month and next (April and May) are unusually busy with travel for Me and the few days that I am in New York City are booked solid with a waiting list for sessions. At the time of this writing, I do have plenty of availability in late May and June 2017. Check My Calendar for more details.
My upcoming travel includes three days (May 3-5, 2017) that I am available for sessions near London. You may book a private session with Me or a double-Domme session with Me and The Baroness Essex. For more information, see below in My April 3, 2017 "Update."
My recent travels included time in a small European town where I witnessed a mindboggling sight. I came upon a group of four male workers trying to maneuver a piece of furniture into a very old building through a window. It was obvious to all (except the movers apparently) that the item was not going to fit. After watching the entertaining and perplexing scene for approximately five minutes, "Aha!," a moment of genius struck one of the males. He pulled a measuring tape out of his pocket and the crew began to measure -- furniture hanging in window. As curious as I was to know the outcome, there was a nearby beach I wanted to visit. So, I commented to My submissive at hand that 1) "these males would never make it into My stable" and 2) "if a woman was in charge, the measuring would have happened prior to moving day," and we made our way to the beach.
April 3, 2017
SESSIONS WITH BARONESS ESSEX
I will be visiting The Baroness Essex at her spectacular location outside of London in May. I will be available for one-on-one sessions as well double-Domme sessions with Baroness Essex from May 3-5, 2017.
If you wish a private audience with Me, you must book by April 24, 2017. The full tribute is required to reserve My time and is non-refundable. See "Our First Session" page for instructions on how to book a session with Me.
The Baroness Essex's website: http://www.baronessessex.com
March 29, 2017
LAYERED NYLONS & NEW MR. S GEAR
My nylon fetishist told Me about a new way he saw nylons being worn -- layered. We decided to experiment. I started with Touchable stockings and a garter belt; then I covered the whole ensemble with a pair of high-gloss Cecilia de Rafael Eterno 15 pantyhose. The effect was interesting and very shiny. We plan to continue experimenting.
I have just received two items off My Gift List from Mr. S Leather, a Mercenary Muzzle and The Handler Collar & Gag. The generous and far-away gift giver sent a message, "Hopefully someone is soon 'happily miserable'..." No doubt this will be the case.
March 26, 2017
AVALON STORY - PART 2 ADDED
March 17, 2017
I have not had a chance to post an update for just over two weeks. Here are a few highlights of what has been going on:
ATLANTA, I was conducting sessions in Atlanta and I got to visit with Mistress Ayn and Mistress Ultra Violet at Atlanta Dungeon. Mistress Ayn told Me about an exciting new project in which she has been engaged and I will write more about that here later.
WASHINGTON DC, I popped into our nation's capital for extended training time with a naughty boy. I enjoyed the beautiful -- but very windy -- weather as I took in the view of The Pentagon from My hotel balcony. One of My proudest moments was when My freshly-trained boy arrived at My door with the perfect cup of hot morning tea. Often it is the simplest things that make Mistress the happiest.
PADDLE, one of My spanking enthusiasts is exceptionally talented at making wooden paddles for use on his tender tail. He presented to Me a charmingly detailed and spectacularly precise handmade Fanny Burner. His combination of skill and artistic ability is rare to find these days and should be added to the unfortunate list of dying arts. I suggested he might want to offer some of his magnificent creations for sale; however, he only constructs them for the special women who tan his hide. I am ecstatic about having more than one of his Rump Roasters in My personal collection of Attitude Adjusters.
STOCKINGS, whenever I slip into a pair of Touchable stockings, I remember how much I love the way they feel on My long silky legs. I recently mentioned this fondness for Touchable stockings to a nylon fetishist of Mine and within days a pair of Touchable nylons showed up in My mail, nude with a black thigh band and perfect for wearing while using My new wooden spanking paddle.
BLIZZARD, after experiencing a winter of abnormally high temperatures and brilliant sunny days here on the east coast of the United States, New York City was hit with what I would call a "false alarm" snowstorm last week, followed by a technically sound blizzard this week. Even though the blizzard shut down most of the region for approximately two days, one loyal and persistent submissive worked his way up the east coast via plane, train, and automobile and arrived promptly at My front door as instructed months in advance. Thankfully we found a restaurant that was open for a delicious dinner since I worked up an appetite just listening to his travel adventure.
PONY BOY, the aftermath of the blizzard in New York City included bone-chilling temperatures accompanied by endless piles of partially frozen slush to navigate. As I donned what was essentially a fleece catsuit, I decided to mount My pony boy for a quick trot around the dungeon to warm us both up before venturing outside to find a place for lunch.
E-MAIL, I am responding to e-mails as time permits. Immediate scheduling matters take priority.
SCHEDULE, be aware, April and May 2017 are more than half booked for Me.
March 1, 2017
LIMITED E-MAIL THIS WEEK
I will not be checking or responding to e-mail regularly through March 9, 2017.
February 23, 2017
March 2-5, 2017, I will be conducting sessions in Atlanta, Georgia. See My "Atlanta Sessions" page for more information.
May 3-5, 2017, I will be available for sessions with The Baroness Essex at Her spectacular Residence just outside of London, England.
All sessions must be booked prior to My departure for each location. A non-refundable deposit is required before any time will be held for you.
February 14, 2017
VALENTINE'S DAY & CHEWBACCA
A few of My favorite Valentine's Day gifts this year are from a submissive who did not try to impress Me with "unique" and "creative" ideals, but rather simply made Me very happy by sending items as described exactly on My "Gift List": Two DVD's (used, but in good condition), "Venus in Fur" and "My Mistress," a book, "The New Bullwhip Book" by Andrew Conway (also used, but in good condition), and a dark chocolate Ritter bar with hazelnuts. I hope everyone is having a splendid Valentine's Day.
Random "Star Wars" Thing: I found Chewbacca in My compost pile!
February 10, 2017
NEW STORY POSTED
February 9, 2017
SCHEDULE / NEW COLLAR / AVALON STORY
My Calendar is filling up through August 2017. You will see several blocks of "red dates" already in place. It is imperative you plan ahead when booking sessions with Me, and be aware I am becoming slower with e-mail replies as I spend even less time at the computer and more time with organized and enthusiastic submissives, slaves, and masochists.
I have recently received a stunning leather-lined iron collar from Fetters in the UK. While it would be appropriate around the neck of many in My stable, I will likely use it only with the generous and fortunate slave who got it for Me. In fact, once bolted in place it may never come off.
January 20, 2017
At the bottom of every page of My website there is a footer. It contains an "Announcements" box, a min-sized calendar, and a site map. It has always been on this version of My website. People occasionally tell Me they had no idea it was there.
January 19, 2017
AT THE DUNGEON
It has been an eventful new year so far and My calendar is full. I will not be checking e-mail regularly through February 1, 2017, and My faithful subs and slaves have already booked sessions through July 2017. Therefore it is imperative that you plan ahead when trying to attain an audience with Me.
Among many other things that are going on, I have recently received two new corsets from Dark Garden Corsets and, needless to say, I have whipped and bound and trained and tormented several members of My stable.
January 1, 2017
NEW YEAR - 2017
Happy New Year!