Contact Me
How to Reach Me
I communicate exclusively by e-mail until I know you, then by phone as necessary.
Requesting a Session with Me
I prefer for your Introduction to arrive via e-mail. You must carefully read Our First Session and submit the proper “Introduction E-mail” to Me. If this process is not carried out precisely, I will not respond. Everyone I see must undergo My screening process, even if another Mistress vouches for you.
I do provide My mailing address near the bottom of this page for those who wish to contact Me through the postal service. If you decide to correspond with Me via regular mail, a $100 tribute is required to receive My attention. If you desire a response, you must also include a size 10 (business size) self-addressed, stamped envelope. DO NOT send a session request without following the instructions given on Our First Session. If you do not follow the instructions, I will not respond.
Returning clients should follow the directions on Returning Clients/submissives.
My e-mail address is: Troy@MistressTroy.com
Cancellations
A minimum of 24-hours' notice is required for weekday cancellations, longer for weekend and overnight sessions. See complete Cancellation Policy. If you must cancel or reschedule a session with Me, you should always call AND send an e-mail. Texting is not an option.
General Information About Contacting Me
E-MAIL:
I do not have time for lengthy correspondence. I do enjoy hearing from regular clients by e-mail, however it is rare that you will receive an immediate reply unless it pertains to scheduling a session or the e-mail is in response to My specific instructions to contact me.
My e-mail address is: Troy@MistressTroy.com
MY PHONE NUMBER:
I do not publish my phone number on this website or elsewhere. I only provide it to applicants who have demonstrated they are worthy of a phone interview. See Our First Session for details.
CALLS:
For those who have earned My phone number, calls lasting longer than five (5) minutes should be booked as phone sessions.
TEXTING:
I do not communicate by text.
SOCIAL MEDIA:
I do not correspond through social media platforms. I do maintain a limited presence on Bluesky and X where I will occasionally make announcements or post pictures. However, this website is My primary method of communicating to the public. If you are contacted by someone purporting to be Me through ANY social media platform it is NOT me and you should not reply.
MY MAILING ADDRESS:
TROY
PO Box 267
New York NY 10028
USA
Note about My shipping address: Most businesses will ship to a PO Box, but a few will only ship to a street address. If you need a street address for a delivery, contact Me directly to obtain the information. DO NOT use the street address for My dungeon if you know it, as I have a different shipping address.
UPS and FedEx will sometimes ship to a PO Box and other times they require a street address. I believe it depends on the arrangement they have with each individual business. If a business does not have an option for shipping via USPS (United States Postal Service), you should specifically confirm whether they can ship to a PO Box or if a street address is necessary.
Other Inquiries
ProDommes Requesting a Client Reference
I want all professional Dommes to enjoy safe and satisfying sessions. However, I no longer respond to requests asking for a client reference for a few reasons, including the fact that several ProDommes have not heeded the information I have provided, thereby defeating the purpose of sharing details along with wasting My time. In an effort to be helpful though, I do offer the following information in regard to client reference requests:
Only three clients have asked Me over the years if they can use Me as a reference. Even when I have agreed and given a positive reference, there have been various issues for the Domme and/or client, including mismatched chemistry, protocol confusion, and differing expectations.
Of the 100+ e-mails I have received from ProDommes asking about potential clients, all My responses could be boiled down to one of the four following statements - - and I doubt this will change dramatically:
"I do not know the person you are asking about. If I do know them, they used a different name and contact information with Me." (This is My most common reply.)
"I told this person not to use Me as a reference because it will not be a positive one."
"This person is safe, but scheduling is/was a problem." (The feedback I usually got to this reply was that the client did not end up booking, or the client booked and then canceled.)
"I saw this person only 1-3 times and/or over two years ago (sometimes not since the 1990s). I do not have current/recent information to share." (In my experience, the behavior of clients can change dramatically -- often for the worse -- in a matter of months.)
If I do not respond to your request for a client reference, then My answer is one, or more, of the four replies listed above. I wish safe and enjoyable sessions for all -- Dominatrixes, Mistresses, Goddesses, Dominas, submissives, masochists, fetishists, slaves, servants, everyone!
Employment and/or Training as a ProDomme
I am not currently employing or training women to be professional Dominatrixes. I often receive e-mails from women requesting information about “how to become a Dominatrix." I do not have the time to answer each individual e-mail, but I will share these thoughts:
Being a Dominatrix is not something to be taken lightly. It is not something one should consider doing “for a quick buck” or as a part-time gig until you decide what you really want to do. You should not use BDSM as a mere source of income, but rather start by exploring it on a personal level if you feel it is something that truly resonates within you. There are many resources available -- websites, books, classes, fetish/BDSM shops and organizations (see a few resources on My Links page) -- for the person who is sincerely interested in learning about and experiencing the very many facets of The Scene. Instead of looking for “a job” as a Dominatrix, discover whether or not you have that deep, burning, undeniable need to participate in BDSM activities or if your interest is little more than someone telling you that “you look like you would make a good Dominatrix.”
Mistress Ayn wrote about this topic in August 2020, click to read How to become a professional Dominatrix
Interview Requests / Media Inquiries
I am an extremely private and discreet person. In order to protect My privacy as well as the privacy of My clients, I decline all requests for interviews and appearances.
Dungeon Rental
My Dungeon is NOT available to rent. Even though I clearly state that My dungeon is not available to rent, I still receive requests. My dungeon is not a rental venue. It is My personal space that I use daily for My own BDSM sessions and office. If something changes, I will update My website.